It is so tough to wait sometimes: Those last days of pregnancy, late and stuck in gridlock, waiting to bring about that phenomenal new idea you've been given that is SUCH a life-giver and energizer for you...
or being 5 and wondering why other people break the rules and you can't. Seems like such a simple thing, to make a decision. But what about those who see you break the rules and wonder why you are "above" them...? When you are 5 every moment you have to wait seems endless.
Tonight I am listening to a situation unfold with a neighbor. Generally a nice girl. But she is the second in a row to decide that the rules don't apply to her, and my daughter wonders why we can't break the rules as well.
Tonight my little girl cried real little girl tears over a beloved pet we lost a few months ago to cancer. She cried because she finally fell in love with a new potential pet this week at an adoption site we passed by on an errand run. A pet we cannot (according to our lease) even bring onto the property. And I (again) explained that as soon as we find our next home we can have exactly the pet we want.
And then our neighbor brought home a kitten and snuck it into our pet-free building. She's the second person to sneak in a pet. And can I just say that said animals have not been sneaky, cooperative, or respectful of quiet hours? Ok, I am being snarky... but isn't it ok for me to be a whole lot miffed that other people could be thoughtless of the rules... and leave me to band-aid my little girl's heart again?
I know the neighbors don't know they hurt her feelings, or why. I'm sure it was completely about what our neighbor wanted and nothing else. But here is a perfect example of why we can't all do whatever we want and "just get along." Because subjective can be selfish... and completely unaware of the hurt inflicted on a 5-year-old heart.
Sometimes the waiting is the worst.
It's always hard to obey the rules when other people don't. Poor Girlie!
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